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General Discussion / Fundraiser for a Friend

Hi guys. 

I'm running a fundraiser for a friend from Tennessee. He's actually 22 (I got that wrong but it's not that important - he'll be 23 soon enough); anyway it has been almost 6 weeks since I started this fundraising event. I have been posting it to facebook (my personal page [currently deactivated as of yesterday] and many support groups [to mixed reception - as many accused me of "solicitation" in what are supposed to be suicide prevention collectives *big eyeroll*]) and twitter regularly for all that time; tagging his account to each post; so all of the money so far was mostly raised from our respective friends with a couple random and generous donations. Anyway, the story of his situation is in the description. Long story short the kid has;
* suicidal thoughts (due to physical pain)
* a big heart
* a penchant for art, music, animals, and plant life
* As of 6 weeks ago 18 infected teeth, 6 are abscessed. With 575$ of our fundraiser so far going towards his first treatment; he had 3 abscessed teeth removed about 2 weeks ago. He has since ran out of painkillers and antibiotics and is once again in pain.
* a very sick, single mother living in poverty
* no job of his own; as his oral pain is extreme without medication & he acts as his mother's caretaker
* no healthcare
* residence in a particularly shitty part of TN (I have contacted various United Way branches in that region, with two responding to me. One person spoke to me for quite awhile but it turned out his town Loretto is not in their jurisdiction. They then sent me a grammatically garbled message that seemed to suggest they would get back to me with contact info for relevant organizations but never did.)
* no ability to see a normal dentist as he is in too bad of condition for it to be legal & must see an oral surgeon

Any amount of money; even as much as 5$ is big help to him. All of the money raised is intended for medical treatment. As things currently seem; I think ultimately about 2,500$ might do the trick & we are 44% of the way there. I can't say that with 100% certainty, however; it might turn out to be more expensive. Please read the description of the fundraiser and consider a donation.

Also, I should add, that even just sharing this link to other platforms that you frequent is a huge help!  <3
Posting this all over the place because it makes a lot of sense.
It's one of Canada's most cherished holiday practices, and it may also be unwittingly robbing resources from some of Canada's most important charities.

You've seen it at the office. You've seen it at the library. You've seen it at your kids' Christmas recital. You've seen it championed by police, firefighters and municipal officials.

I'm talking, of course, about donating canned goods to holiday food drives.

Now don't get me wrong. Donating to charity is a good thing, particularly during the holidays, when many charities budget for yuletide donations. But, the simple rules of economics are begging you: Give money to food banks, rather than food.

Canned goods have a particularly low rate of charitable return. They're heavy, they're awkward and they can be extremely difficult to fit into a family's meal plan. Worst of all, the average consumer is buying those canned goods at four to five times the rock-bottom bulk price that can be obtained by the food bank itself.

That $1 you spent on tuna could have purchased $4 worth of tuna if put in the hands of a non-profit employee whose only job is to buy food as cheaply as possible. The savvy buyers at the Calgary Food Bank, for instance, promise they can stretch $1 into $5.

Probably the worst tragedy of the inefficient food drive is holiday events and theatre performances where organizers ask for canned food donations in lieu of selling tickets.

The better option, of course, is to keep selling tickets and donate the box office take to the food bank. By not doing this, these well-meaning organizers are effectively surrendering vast amounts of critically needed grocery money in exchange for heavy cardboard boxes filled with god knows what.

And then there's the logistical nightmare when these boxes show up at the food bank's loading dock.

Put yourself in the place of a food bank that has just accepted an anarchic 40-pound box of random food from an office fundraiser. It's got pie filling, Kraft Dinner, beans, pumpkin and chick peas. All those food items need to be sorted, stored, inventoried and then shoehorned into the food bank's distribution schedule.

It's bad form to have low-income families eat nothing but creamed corn until the stocks run dry, so some items move faster than others.

Consider the herculean plight of the food bank warehouse manager, and it's easy to imagine how a particularly unhelpful box of food could end up doing nothing but wasting a bunch of people's time before it ends up shunted into a dumpster.

All this has been known for years, and yet the practice continues. There are a few reasons for this.

First, charities are extremely leery about telling people how to donate. Nothing alienates a good samaritan faster than watching them pull up in a cube van of donated food, only to suggest that "maybe next time they just cut a cheque." When charities get picky, it's human for would-be donors to think they don't really need the help that bad.

Second, people don't trust charities. Charities have particularly fragile brands, and it only takes one or two charitable scandals showing up in someone's Facebook feed for them to start casting aspersions on our nation's non-profits.

So, by donating a flat of condensed milk instead of $30, donors feel they are insulating themselves against any unseemly corruption.

This was something seen during the Fort McMurray fires. Many Albertans, leery of seeing monetary donations vanish down some kind of bureaucratic black hole, insisted instead on donating mountains of diapers and toiletries that got wasted.

And last, something that is probably the most uncomfortable fact about all this: It doesn't feel as good to donate money. As much as we like to pretend that charitable giving is a selfless act, a lot of it is driven by the human need to feel special and magnanimous.

And as donations go, it's much more satisfying to donate a minivan filled with Ragu than to send a $100 e-transfer.

Charities know this, and it's another reason why they are so hesitant to pooh-pooh canned food drives, despite the extra logistical cost. Non-profits know that people get a buzz from loudly dropping $6 worth of cans into an office hamper, and they're happy to channel that urge towards something good.

They also know it's a tougher sell to convince schools and offices to merely pass the hat for the hungry, rather than big photo-worthy gestures like building towers of creamed corn.

So, if you feel your coworkers or students need something spherical and tactile in order to fire their benevolent instincts, then by all means hold a food drive, and remind people to stick to the always-needed staples like peanut butter and canned fish.

But if you're a pragmatist just looking to vanquish as much poverty as possible with your disposable income, suck it up, key in your credit card number and enter the glorious world of anonymous, non-glamourous philanthropy.

That empty food hamper at your office needn't be a mark of shame, but a badge of honour.
Introductions / Re: Good Lord
hi Gonzo who are you?

I don't know anymore. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Mafia / Re: ebb & flow: Time-warp Mafia [Sign-up] @ CFb
Game is likely to start in about 2-3 weeks. Sometime in the first half of November. I made a list of possible game mechanics and am pretty amped with the idea. It'll be a fun set-up.

so far we have
1. apropos (nostrum)
2. Majiffy
3. rachmarie
Mafia / ebb & flow: Time-warp Mafia [Sign-up] @ CFb

A standard mafia game with game time manipulating roles.  Sign up here.  :parrot:
Awesome game, raven. Had a lot of fun.
Gonzo, why the hell did you lie about your character?  Did you think Neelix was somehow scummy?

Having two Rikers sure raised some suspicions.

yeah that was dumb. Gonzo was also pretty eager to lynch town if/when those townies were on his ass. He definitely looked like he was up for hire and had no real dedication to a town win.

I had no real dedication to town. I only cared about winning for myself and carlsson.
Gonzo, why the hell did you lie about your character?  Did you think Neelix was somehow scummy?

Having two Rikers sure raised some suspicions.

Yeah I thought Neelix was an undesirable town ally, but idk much about him except that he's ugly. I thought two Rikers was the kind of WIFOM that people would come to expect from role madness.
I actually poisoned nacho because of an actual scum read and was pretty sure the flip would help me fake claim as town. I poisoned SR71 just to get him off my back and feign that I thought he was scum thinking he'd flip town.
we got dis buddy

ST and Ginny need to claim their actions right now
I voyeured borealis.  Someone killed her.

no shit
gonna go get some food and then have a class session for an hour at 1pm
verbal abuse is so cool
*made that really clear
you should have claimed yesterday and I would have poisoned ST. I made the really clear.
I mean if you are so good at mafia, now's the time

think about it... even if I hadn't poisoned you - if a town got lynched today, scum would get there last kill on town and win.
it's not even a heavy burden

jiffy if you are spock your probably cleared on that alone (probably)

so it's ginny or ST

just get this lynch right and it doesn't matter if you die
if "town loses because of me" they totally deserve it. I am self aligned. Not my job to win it for you.
you should ask your doctor is antipsychotics are right for you  :unsmith:
unvote jiffy
##vote ST
Seriously fuck you town is gonna lose because of your shit play

I killed two of the scum so blame yourself
 @@unvote ginny mayor@@
 @@vote jiffy mayor@@

did you get a soup message dude